Why is it so difficult to accept our body as it is? Why is it so difficult to accept our body as it is?

Why is it so difficult to accept our body as it is?

Why is it so difficult to accept our body as it is? Finding comfort and acceptance is a daily task–and a difficult one–for most of us. This is how I remember myself every day that my body is worthy of love. 

I find myself rummaging through old pictures and comparing them trying to figure out when was the time when I was actually the skinniest and happiest, but I always come to the same realization: No matter my body size, I have always felt it was not small enough. I look at a picture of me at a certain party and I remember feeling uncomfortable with that particular dress, or feeling as if I should have shed some weight before that event, and find hindsight, I looked perfectly fine.

Why is it so difficult to accept our body as it is? 

 Why is it so difficult to accept our body as it is? 

I have to accept that I will never look the way I wish I did, because what I'm looking for does not exist, regardless of my weight, the change comes from within, and that's why it is so difficult to accept our body as it is, because our body image has nothing to do with the way we look, it's all about the way we feel about ourselves

How to change the way we feel about ourselves

When your shoes don't fit you, you probably don't hesitate in getting a bigger size and you wouldn't even consider chopping your fingers off, starting a feet-fasting trend, or getting depressed over having to buy a bigger pair of shoes.

I wish I knew exactly how to change the way we feel about ourselves, but the truth is that there is no recipe. What I can say, however, is how I try to keep those negative feelings at bay, and how I remind myself every day of my worth.

Buy clothes your size

When your shoes don't fit you, you probably don't hesitate in getting a bigger size and you wouldn't even consider chopping your fingers off, starting a feet-fasting trend, or getting depressed over having to buy a bigger pair of shoes, why then make a fuss over getting bigger clothes? Size is just that, a number. If you get the right size, you won't feel uncomfortable in your clothes. 

Be your best friend

Oh, that critical inner voice that tries to bring us down... When you spot yourself making a negative remark about your body, ask yourself “Is this something I would tell my best friend?” If the answer is “no,” then try to rephrase your comment and treat yourself as if you were talking to a friend you love. That voice is not yours, it comes from unhealthy beauty standards we've been exposed to since the day we were born, and it is our job to make it disappear. 

Therapy

Mental health is as important as your health. Going to therapy helps you spot the type of behaviors that are harmful and those negative thoughts that most of the time are unfounded. 

Be with people that make you feel good about yourself

Stay away from people who are passive-aggressive or those who make you feel like you don't belong. You don't need to befriend anyone that makes you feel bad about who you are. This also goes about social media, unfollow those who promote unrealistic standards of beauty and ideas of success. 

The bottom line

Treat yourself as if you were talking to a friend you love.  

Do more of what makes you smile, be with people that make you feel loved, and identify your own criteria of what success means for you. Changing the way we feel about our bodies is not simple, it takes time, and effort and you might have ups and downs. But remember that being successful is learning to be comfortable in your own skin, and being your true self, no matter what. 

Aniela Dybiec

Aniela is a writer who loves art, makeup, and magick. She is also an amateur illustrator, a wellness fan and a vegetarian.+ info

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