Stop negative thoughts with these 4 tips

Stop negative thoughts with these 4 tips

Gradual habits make long term changes.

Shifting the way you think means you’re consciously stopping an established thought pattern. You re-evaluate how you reflect on a situation, or even what you think about it, to focus on something else. It can’t be done overnight, but with this guide, you will gradually learn how to control your negative thoughts and keep an overall positive mindset.

The “Shoulds”

If there’s a lot of “I should do this” or “I should do that,” there is a problem. Not because the things you “should” do are bad, but because you are sending a guilt vibe to your brain. The word “should” is damaging your mental health. If this is your case, you need to take a pause.

Patterns of automatic negative thinking

Try to identify your patterns

Behind the “shoulds,” there might be a form of cognitive distortion known as automatic negative thoughts (ANTs).

These ANTs are the first thoughts that pop up in your mind whenever you feel scared or in danger. It’s very difficult to be aware of them because they are usually learned throughout your whole life. ANTs are very common in anxiety and depressive thinking.

Do this to stop them: list the thoughts that popped into your brain relating to that specific situation (“The world is an awful place,” “I can’t cope with this,” to name a few, and try to challenge that, separate the actual facts from your preconceived ideas. 

Try to change your way of thinking

Try to change your way of thinking

It sounds silly to say, “just change your thoughts,” and, truth be told, it is quite hard. But here are a few tips. First, try to take into account facts only, for example, if you have to do something at work, think first “How many times did I mess things up?” Probably not many, or you would have been fired. Then you can start “telling” good thoughts to your brain like “If my boss believes in me, it is because I can do it” or “Is it that bad if I actually mess this up or am I overreacting?”

Second, act as if you’re judging the thought of a friend rather than your own thought. You probably won’t be so hard on them as you would have been on yourself. Treat yourself with the same respect you’d treat a friend.

Don’t force the “positive vibe”

It’s not about constantly repeating “I’m happy” instead of “I’m sad.”
It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to feel anxious. Take a break and give yourself another day. Acknowledging your feelings of sadness or being overwhelmed is the first step to start thinking of the reasons for them and to look out for a solution. Denying things is, probably, the most unhealthy thing you can do.

And always remember: sometimes, it is necessary to ask for help. And you know what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you need to look for assistance, do not hesitate. You are not alone!

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