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The ability to assess someone’s level of self-awareness is crucial.
Find out here the 6 signs to spot low self-awareness.
1. Never admitting mistakes
When someone doesn’t want to admit their mistakes is often a sign of deep insecurity. It’s hard to be self-aware if you’re unwilling to be vulnerable.
On the other hand, the willingness to admit mistakes suggests mental toughness and emotional maturity.
To become more self-aware, then, requires the courage to be vulnerable on purpose and admit your errors as they are part of life and don’t define you.
2. Criticizing others
The thing about criticizing is that it feels good. For example, when you are criticizing someone that made a stupid comment, you are actually saying that you consider yourself smarter than that person and that feels good. But the danger comes hidden because when you’re constantly trying to feel good about yourself there’s no time left to learn about yourself.
3. Avoiding hard decisions
When people chronically avoid hard decisions by being passive or procrastinating, for example, it’s often a sign that they aren’t willing to really look at their own mind objectively.
4. Being vague about their feelings
It may seem like something even stupid but here’s the thing: if you struggle to explain how you feel and say phrases like “I’m just upset” instead of saying “I feel sad” your mind starts to identify that these feelings are dangerous and creates an avoidance mechanism.
5. Worrying about the future
. People haven’t taken the time to genuinely reflect on what worry is and how it works (or doesn’t work) in our lives. Their mind just starts worrying and they go along with it, without pausing to investigate it and look at it questioningly and curiously.
6. Ruminating on the past
When people spend too much time ruminating and dwelling on past mistakes, losses, or failures, it can lead to tremendous emotional suffering with no upside at all. Reflect on past mistakes and losses. Accept them. But don’t ruminate on them.